February92014

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Spanking Positions

    One of the factors that sets spanking apart from other forms of swatting is the deliberate and sometimes ceremonial positioning of the participants. While some spankings are haphazard, I prefer spankings that include the ritual of positioning. Both the spankee and spanker adopt positions that facilitate and enhance the spanking. The spanker enjoys the following advantages from their position:-

Comfort & Endurance
   Whether standing or sitting, the spanker is positioned to be comfortable throughout the spanking. They are able to swing their arms at a natural angle and able to sustain a lengthy spanking with ease and apply swats to the intended target with force. While standing, the spanker can not only swing their arm but rotate their body to deliver maximum energy to an anxiously awaiting, clenching derriere. Except for the notable exception of their backside, I think it’s important that the spankee be relatively comfortable so they can focus on the sensations being inflicted upon their posterior.-

Control & Submission
   The spanker’s position gives them the “upper hand” and allows them to easily control the spankee. They sit or stand higher than the spankee and are easily able to restrain and situate the spankee.

   Cooperatively getting into position to be spanked is the primary act of submission in spanking and signals the beginning of the spanking, thus building anticipation.-

   Once positioned, the spankee has relinquished control and may not easily regain it until the spanking is done. They may have difficulty removing their rear from the line of fire if they try.- Inability to clench. When standing, one can clench their cheeks together, mitigating the sting of a swat and the exposure. When properly positioned, it is more difficult to clench cheeks and the spanking will be applied to a relaxed, bouncing bottom.A properly positioned bottom will tend to be spanked harder and more completely on the sensitive “sit spot”.

Finally, being put over the knee is a childish, humiliating posture. Having to “assume the position” is humiliating in its submission and rubs in the fact that they are being spanked.
Access & Exposure
   Spanking positions would be sexy even to people not into spanking.A properly positioned bottom is fully exposed with the cheeks are fully presented and split, their undersides turned up. In the case of men, the anus and back of scrotum show. Women are even more exposed. This fact is not lost on said person. Therefore, the spankee feels they are willingly “sticking it out” and presenting it for its punishment. The spankee knows their bottom cannot evade or escape the swats.

   Speaking from the point of view of an admitted bottom-fancier, there a few times that someone looks more adorable and beautiful than when he or she is positioned to be spanked. Not only is the bottom emphasized, but it is formed to a flattering shape and sexily perked out.

Safety

   Because the spanker is in the position to easily spank the rear-end at the correct angle, it is much less likely that a blow will fall too high or too low. Although it may be of little solace, the spankee can take comfort in the fact that their position affords safety from injury. Of course, this can be disconcerting if they know they will be spanked with even more abandon.-

Readjustment & Verbal instruction

   I think it’s important to position and adjust the spankee prior to the first swat. Emphasis should be placed on positioning and presenting the bottom fully.  Verbal communication is necessary throughout the spanking to encourage the spankee to continue to assume the correct position.-

http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/spanking_positions.html

Spanking Positions

    One of the factors that sets spanking apart from other forms of swatting is the deliberate and sometimes ceremonial positioning of the participants. While some spankings are haphazard, I prefer spankings that include the ritual of positioning. Both the spankee and spanker adopt positions that facilitate and enhance the spanking. The spanker enjoys the following advantages from their position:-

Comfort & Endurance

   Whether standing or sitting, the spanker is positioned to be comfortable throughout the spanking. They are able to swing their arms at a natural angle and able to sustain a lengthy spanking with ease and apply swats to the intended target with force. While standing, the spanker can not only swing their arm but rotate their body to deliver maximum energy to an anxiously awaiting, clenching derriere. Except for the notable exception of their backside, I think it’s important that the spankee be relatively comfortable so they can focus on the sensations being inflicted upon their posterior.-

Control & Submission

   The spanker’s position gives them the “upper hand” and allows them to easily control the spankee. They sit or stand higher than the spankee and are easily able to restrain and situate the spankee.

   Cooperatively getting into position to be spanked is the primary act of submission in spanking and signals the beginning of the spanking, thus building anticipation.-

   Once positioned, the spankee has relinquished control and may not easily regain it until the spanking is done. They may have difficulty removing their rear from the line of fire if they try.- Inability to clench. When standing, one can clench their cheeks together, mitigating the sting of a swat and the exposure. When properly positioned, it is more difficult to clench cheeks and the spanking will be applied to a relaxed, bouncing bottom.A properly positioned bottom will tend to be spanked harder and more completely on the sensitive “sit spot”.

Finally, being put over the knee is a childish, humiliating posture. Having to “assume the position” is humiliating in its submission and rubs in the fact that they are being spanked.


Access & Exposure

   Spanking positions would be sexy even to people not into spanking.A properly positioned bottom is fully exposed with the cheeks are fully presented and split, their undersides turned up. In the case of men, the anus and back of scrotum show. Women are even more exposed. This fact is not lost on said person. Therefore, the spankee feels they are willingly “sticking it out” and presenting it for its punishment. The spankee knows their bottom cannot evade or escape the swats.

   Speaking from the point of view of an admitted bottom-fancier, there a few times that someone looks more adorable and beautiful than when he or she is positioned to be spanked. Not only is the bottom emphasized, but it is formed to a flattering shape and sexily perked out.

Safety

   Because the spanker is in the position to easily spank the rear-end at the correct angle, it is much less likely that a blow will fall too high or too low. Although it may be of little solace, the spankee can take comfort in the fact that their position affords safety from injury. Of course, this can be disconcerting if they know they will be spanked with even more abandon.-

Readjustment & Verbal instruction

   I think it’s important to position and adjust the spankee prior to the first swat. Emphasis should be placed on positioning and presenting the bottom fully.  Verbal communication is necessary throughout the spanking to encourage the spankee to continue to assume the correct position.-

http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/spanking_positions.html

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Safewords and Non-Verbal Cues
Safe words and dropping ribbons are wonderful, but what if your submissive  can’t do that? Are You looking for the non-verbal cues that they are reaching that place where you need to step back?I had a sad conversation with a Dom this morning who did not. His relationship is over because He didnt recognize she had slipped into subbie space and couldn’t use her safe word.A nonverbal cue is a physical reaction one gives in response to a stimuli— whether that be sensory or auditory.So, Master says, “subbie lick My boots faster” And subbie replies with “rolling my eyes.” she is giving a nonverbal cue.  A subbie goes running around the room and a Top ‘arches an eyebrow as I watch’— The top is giving a nonverbal cue.Well these cues can also be read rt or ct in a scene. I know when subservient’s posts get choppy and (sometimes) ‘blonde’ *smiling at him*, she is really in that submissive place and is lost. she needs Me to recognize that without necessarily verbalizing it to Me. So I step back and let her process before moving forward. In rt I have a slave who goes totally silent when she is in that place— if you knew her, silence is not her thing *L* So when she starts fading like thatI know where to go with her and where NOT to go. 

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Safewords and Non-Verbal Cues

Safe words and dropping ribbons are wonderful, but what if your submissive  can’t do that? Are You looking for the non-verbal cues that they are reaching that place where you need to step back?

I had a sad conversation with a Dom this morning who did not. His relationship is over because He didnt recognize she had slipped into subbie space and couldn’t use her safe word.

A nonverbal cue is a physical reaction one gives in response to a stimuli— whether that be sensory or auditory.

So, Master says, “subbie lick My boots faster” And subbie replies with “rolling my eyes.” she is giving a nonverbal cue.  A subbie goes running around the room and a Top ‘arches an eyebrow as I watch’— The top is giving a nonverbal cue.

Well these cues can also be read rt or ct in a scene. I know when subservient’s posts get choppy and (sometimes) ‘blonde’ *smiling at him*, she is really in that submissive place and is lost. she needs Me to recognize that without necessarily verbalizing it to Me. So I step back and let her process before moving forward. In rt I have a slave who goes totally silent when she is in that place— if you knew her, silence is not her thing *L* So when she starts fading like that
I know where to go with her and where NOT to go. 
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how do you kiss your girl?

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how do you kiss your girl?

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I like this girl hanging around.. hanging her head off„ lol

findingmysubmission:

I like this girl hanging around.. hanging her head off„ lol

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